Adult Stimulation!

No, not that kind you sick-os!! I actually got to go out to eat to a fabulous restaurant last night with all adults!! It was quite remarkable I must say. If you are not a stay at home mom you have no idea why I am so happy to be talking to other adults, if you are a stay at home mom, you know exactly what I'm talking about!! I can go weeks at a time without ever hearing someone call me by my name, my real name, not "mom", or "mommy" or "honey". This can be quite demoralizing and can really make you crazy!! You begin to see yourself as only mom and nothing more. Being a mom is absolutely wonderful, and I am so fortunate to be able to stay at home with my precious little boys, but moms tend to put themselves absolutely last, right behind the dog and the hamster most of the time! This is not a good thing. While there are times in motherhood that you must be completely selfless, you are no good to anyone if you do not feed your own soul. Take the time to remember what gives you a spark, what really lights your fire (besides your spouse!). When we feed ourselves we are better mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc. However, doing this also brings on the mom guilt, something men don't seem to understand. We think we should be able to do it all without having to take the time for ourselves and recharge our own batteries. Why is this? What is it about our society that tells us that we can do it all and that we HAVE to do it all? Would one person run a multi-million dollar business and be able to fill all of the positions? I think not. While your household may not be a multi-million dollar business in terms of currency (far from it), you are dealing with shaping the next generation of leaders and this is quite a task and responsibility. So, let yourself have a break, know that it's ok that you can be everything to everyone. Be true to yourself and your family, don't worry about making the perfect snack for your son's K5 class because the mom who brought snack the day before you made homemade cupcakes and stenciled each child's name on them, just buy it if you have to.

All of this rambling to say, dinner was fabulous!! Other adults actually called me by my name!! Imagine that! We had stimulating conversation, about politics, economic growth, religion, theatre, wine, history..........things I forgot that I could even talk about! and more importantly, things I forgot that I love to talk about. We of course all talked about our precious children and the trials we are experiencing at present but not one time all night did anyone ask me to get them something to drink, no one was pulling on my arm as I was trying to scarf down my meal(which is what usually happens at home), and best of all, no one, not one single person there, asked me to wipe their bottom or tell me that they needed to go poopie!!! What a relief. it was truly wonderful and the food was fabulous and almost as great as the company with which it was shared. So thanks Scott for an absolutely spectacular evening that fed my body as well as my soul!!